I've lived in the UK for years and came to learn “you all right?” isnt actually a genuine question, fairly early on. Weirdly, I only started to come across the title greeting several months ago, in my new place of work. As expected, it always prefaces an email or chat greeting on a Monday.
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I actually made an effort to acknowledge it for a while, but much like “you all right?”, I've come to suspect it's just filler, and I simply ignore it now. Am I being rude, or do you wish the sender the same, or even write about your weekend?
Yes, it's just a filler greeting for Monday emails to soften the blow, it doesn't need any response. Friday emails can similarly be signed off 'Have a great weekend'.
It can be ignored I guess but I tend to respond with “I had a good weekend, thanks. Hope you did too.” It's that nice small bit of rapport building. I actually ask people on the phone if they had a good weekend for this exact reason, get some casual dialogue going before delving into technicalities. It really depends on the field you work in of course.
In an email it isn't a prompt to tell them about your weekend, but something like “Hope you had a good weekend too” or “it was nice thanks” is all that is needed, but you can just ignore it tbh. It is just a pleasantry.
As an American, we tend to use “how are you doing?” As a similar greeting. There are several Brits that don't know this and when I say it I get actually thought through answers. It's very funny to me so I haven't stopped.
I have learned “I'm alright, you?” As a response to “you okay?” But it's still not natural to me.
Interestingly, here in the American South (at least here in New Orleans) many people use “You Allright” as a form of greeting/acknowledgement. I've heard it almost exclusively from black people and it's halfway between a question and a statement and I believe translates roughly to “Hi there, I see you and you are looking good and hopefully having a great day”.
As a slightly awkward Canadian I haven't yet determined what the appropriate answer is though so I just smile and nod.
I was reading recently about the massive “English” English language influence in the American South but I wouldn't imagine it so much in New Orelans, being originally French.
Then again, the French and English use language very similarly. We both greet and thank people in very similar ways. I guess “comment ça va” is pretty much the same as “you alright”. Correct response is “oui ça va?”. Same as ours would be, “yes you?” or something similar.
It just requires a minimal stock response, rather like the annual offering at the start of January of ‘Did you have a nice Christmas?’ Which of course no one actually cares about and the only acceptable response is ‘yeah, not bad thanks! Quiet, you know, how about you?’ Any actual responses detailing your Christmas will mark you as someone to be avoided the rest of the year!
It is indeed a filler question, no obligation to give a committed response. Something like 'yeah, good thanks' is usually enough. Many such filler questions abound. 'you alright today?' is a common one. We just want to pretend that we're not lizardmen out to steal your firstborn.
Lizardman comes to steal your firstborn? Everyone runs around screaming. Lizardman asks 'how was your weekend?', everyone just says 'yeah, good thanks' and then nobody really cares what lizardman does afterwards. He was awfully polite, after all.
It’s a filler question. They don’t actually care about your weekend. If you tell them about it in detail they’ll be a bit like what the fuck.
The correct response is “Had a alright/good weekend thanks, hope you did too,” or something along those lines.
Yeah it's just polite, don't talk about your weekend in an email. It's generally only a one way thing too, so you wouldn't reply and say 'hope you had a good weekend' back. You can say it if you're the first one emailing. Same for if someone's been away you might say 'hope you had a nice holiday…. Can you do xyz for me”.
Honestly I see it as little more than a buffer between the greeting and the work talk. Instead of “Hi Colleague, hope you had a nice weekend. I was looking at the stats for …” it might as well read, “Hi Colleague, I am about to talk about work now. I was looking at the stats for …”
Also, side note, I’m of the firm opinion that the correct response to “You alright?” is “You alright?” It’s the modern day “How do you do?” haha
It’s well meaning filler unless there’s specific context for it, you can read it as “I’m writing this letter with no hostility”/ “sending good vibes”, nobody really expects an answer and certainly not a discussion from it since it’s meant as no more than a nice thing to say